نشریه انجمن علمی روانشناسی ایران

نوع مقاله : پژوهش کیفی

نویسندگان

1 کارشناس ارشد مشاوره، دانشکده ادبیات و علوم انسانی، دانشگاه شهید باهنر، کرمان، ایران

2 استاد، گروه روانشناسی، دانشکده ادبیات و علوم انسانی، دانشگاه شهید باهنر، کرمان، ایران

3 استادیار، گروه روانشناسی، دانشکده ادبیات و علوم انسانی، دانشگاه شهید باهنر، کرمان، ایران

چکیده

خیانت زناشویی، ازجمله مهم‌ترین عوامل خطرآفرین روابط زوجینی محسوب می‌شود که افشای آن فرد خیانت دیده را در دوراهی ماندن و یا ترک رابطه قرار می‌دهد. هدف از پژوهش حاضر واکاوی عواملی است که باعث می‌شوند زنان خیانت دیده، علی‌رغم افشای خیانت همسر، تصمیم به ادامه رابطه با همسر خود گیرند. جامعه آماری این پژوهش کلیه زنان خیانت دیده شهرستان کرمان بودند که علی‌رغم افشای خیانت همسرشان همچنان در رابطه باقی مانده‌ بودند. نمونه این پژوهش شامل 16 نفر از زنان خیانت دیده شهرستان کرمان هستند که به‌صورت هدفمند و با استفاده از روش نمونه‌گیری نظری و گلوله برفی انتخاب شدند. روش جمع‌آوری داده‌ها در این پژوهش مصاحبه عمیق نیمه ساختاریافته بود و برای تجزیه‌وتحلیل داده‌ها از روش کیفی داده بنیاد و از رویکرد تحلیل سیستماتیک استراوس و کربین استفاده شد. تجزیه‌وتحلیل  داده‌های به‌دست‌آمده، منجر به شناسایی 38 مفهوم و 12 مقوله محوری شد که با محوریت مقوله مرکزی (ماندن پس از افشای خیانت همسر) در3 طبقه‌ی کلی شرایط علّی، شرایط زمینه‌ای و شرایط مداخله‌گر قرار گرفتند. نتایج این پژوهش نشان داد که زنان خیانت دیده تحت تأثیر شرایط علی (وجود فرزند، علاقه به همسر، رفتارهای اعتماد ساز همسر، عدم دریافت حمایت خانواده، خیانت متقابل و نگرش‌ها و باورها)، شرایط زمینه‌ای (فشار‌های اجتماعی و فرهنگی، ویژگی‌های شخصیتی و روانی و محدودیت‌های قانونی برای زنان) و شرایط مداخله‌گر (مسائل مالی و اقتصادی، نوع خیانت همسر و حمایت خانواده همسر)، به رابطه با همسر بی‌وفا ادامه داده‌اند.  

کلیدواژه‌ها

عنوان مقاله [English]

Effective Factors in Staying in the Relationship Following Marital Infidelity Disclosure: A Qualitative Study

نویسندگان [English]

  • Ali Raeisi 1
  • Abbas Rahmati 2
  • anahita tashk 3

1 M.A. in Counseling, Faculty of Literature and Humanities, Shahid Bahonar University, Kerman, Iran

2 Professor, Department of Psychology, Faculty of Literature and Humanities, Shahid Bahonar University, Kerman, Iran

3 Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Faculty of Literature and Humanities, Shahid Bahonar University, Kerman, Iran

چکیده [English]

Marital infidelity is considered one of the most important risk factors of marital relationships, the disclosure of which puts the betrayed individual in a dilemma of staying or leaving the relationship. The current research aimed to investigate the factors that made women who were betrayed decide to continue their relationship with their husbands despite disclosing their husbands’ infidelity. The statistical population of this study included all the betrayed women of Kerman who remained in the relationship despite the disclosure of their husbands’ betrayal. The sample included 16 women who were betrayed in Kerman. They were selected purposively using theoretical and snowball sampling methods. The data were collected through semi-structured in-depth interviews. In addition, the data was analyzed through the qualitative method of Grounded Theory and the systematic analysis approach of Strauss and Corbin. The analysis of the obtained data led to the identification of 38 concepts and 12 axial codes, which were categorized into three general conditions: causal conditions, contextual conditions, and intervening conditions, all centered around the main theme of "staying after spousal infidelity disclosure." The results of this study indicated that the betrayed women continued to live with their spouses under causal conditions (i.e., the presence of children, affection for the spouse, spouse’s trust-building behaviors, lack of family support, mutual infidelity, and attitudes and beliefs), contextual conditions (i.e., social and cultural pressures, personal and psychological characteristics, and legal constraints on women), and intervening conditions (i.e., financial and economic issues, the type of spouse’ betrayal, and the support of the spouse’s family).

کلیدواژه‌ها [English]

  • Staying in the relationship
  • disclosure of infidelity
  • qualitative study
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