نشریه انجمن علمی روانشناسی ایران

نویسندگان

1 پژوهشکده خانواده، دانشگاه شهید بهشتی

2 دانشگاه شهید بهشتی

چکیده

: عدم تطابق بین خود واقعی ادراک شده فرد و آن‌چه به عنوان استانداردها برای خویش در نظر می‌گیرد، پیامدهای ناخوشایند روانی و عاطفی ایجاد می‌کند، از جمله این­که می­تواند شکل‌گیری و حفظ روابط زوجی و رضایت از زندگی را تحت تاثیر قرار ‌دهد. پژوهش حاضر با هدف مقایسه ناهم‌خوانی خودها در بین افراد متقاضی و غیرمتقاضی طلاق انجام شد. به منظور دست‌یابی به این هدف، 122 فرد متقاضی طلاق (77 زن، 45 مرد) و 115 فرد غیرمتقاضی (76 زن، 39 مرد) به پرسشنامه ناهم‌خوانی خودها (ISDI) پاسخ دادند. نتایج پژوهش نشان داد ناهماهنگی خودها در افراد متقاضی طلاق بالاتر از افراد غیر متقاضی طلاق است؛ هم­چنین بین دو گروه در ناهم‌خوانی خود واقعی/ بایدی شخصی، خود واقعی/ نامطلوب شخصی، خود واقعی/ بایدی دیگران و خود واقعی/ نامطلوب دیگران تفاوت معنا‌دار وجود دارد. براساس یافته­های این پژوهش می­توان نتیجه گرفت فاصله بین خودها و واقعیت­های موجود می­تواند موجبات نارضایتی زوجین را فراهم آورد. به عبارت دیگر هر فردی بر اساس الگوهای خاصی از ناهم­خوانی بین جنبه­هایی از خود، پیامدهای هیجانی متفاوتی را ادراک می­کند، به­طوری که مقایسه بین خودها و تعارضات خود می­تواند مشکلاتی را برای زوجین ایجاد کند و  بر میزان رضایت زناشویی­ آنها تاثیرگذار باشد تا جایی که منجر به انحلال روابط زناشویی شود.

کلیدواژه‌ها

عنوان مقاله [English]

The comparison of self-discrepancy among individuals demanding and non-demanding divorce

نویسندگان [English]

  • Mansoure Sadat Sadeghi 1
  • Ramin Hashemi Geshnigani 2
  • Hajar Fallazade 2

1

2

چکیده [English]

Discrepancy between actual perceived self and what the individual considers as standard guidelines, can results in unpleasant mental and emotional outcomes. So it can affect the form and maintaining relation of couples and their life satisfaction. The aim of the present study was to examine the comparison of self-discrepancy among divorcing and non-divorcing individuals. A total of 239 volunteers (122 divorcing and 117 non-divorcing individuals), in Tehran, participated in this study. All participants were asked to complete Self-Discrepancy Index (SDI). The results showed that the divorcing individuals reported significantly higher on levels of self-discrepancy. The results also revealed that personal actual-ought self-discrepancy, personal actual-feared self-discrepancy, others actual-ought self-discrepancy, and others actual/ feared self-discrepancy were different in the two groups. Based on the results of this study, it can be concluded that the distance between selves and realities can provide dissatisfaction in couples, and subsequently marital disruption can follow. In other words, each couple, based on certain patterns of self-discrepancy among aspects of selves, can experience different emotional consequences, so their conflict can create problems for them. The comparison between selves can affect marital satisfaction, so that it can lead to dissolution of marital relationship.

کلیدواژه‌ها [English]

  • ideal self
  • ought self
  • feared self
  • Divorce
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